Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Avoid conflicts by Embracing them

Conflict is some thing that causes a lot of stress, and it occurs on many scales. It can range from small conflicts between members of family or friends to large conflicts between countries. Regardless of its scale, conflict is a source of stress which can sometimes be deadly.

Therefore it i really important to avoid conflicts in your life, and the best way to avoid conflicts is expect and embrace it. Let us find how to avoid conflicts by embracing it. It is first important to understand that you can not really avoid conflicts with other people. As long as you work and live with others you should expect to have conflicts and disagreements. There are no two people in this world that see eye-to-eye on everything and this will naturally leads to conflicts. Bu using the expression "Embrace conflict", mans that avoiding conflicts by expecting and dealing with them.

Normally passive people do not follow this.They try everything in their power to avoid conflict, but this only creates feelings of tension, resentment and stress within them, and once they finally do attempt to resolve it, it will often come in the form of them exploding or being overly aggressive. This of course is counter productive. An aggressive person will embrace conflict by going out looking for it, which is equally bad. The best way to avoid conflict is to expect it and embrace it, but you do not want to go looking to trouble.

It is always important to avoid hitting your listener with too much information at once. Some people define assertiveness as hitting their listeners with so much information and facts that they are compelled to see  things form their point of view. While this form of behavior may sound logical at first, but it actually is not.

The only time that people would accept what you are saying is once they are interested in accepting it. Even when it appears that people accept your bull dozing, they will generally do it to agree with you, and then will avoid you or your recommendations once they get the chance.

It is also best to avoid arguing with  people.  An assertive person is someone who can often get their point across without a lot of bickering. Remember there is no such thing as "winning an argument". Even when it appears that you have won, you will typically only increase feelings of resentments in the person you are arguing with, and this is crucially important.

When you convince someone of something, and it is against their will, they will still maintain the same opinion. It is always important to make people accept an idea by making it something they are attracted to.

Bickering with people achieves nothing, and will often cause far more harm than good. It is also important to make use of patience while avoiding bumping heads with people. You do not want to be too eager, as it is important to move towards your objective carefully.

You also do not want to find collide with the person you are trying to work with. You should be wise enough to avoid sore spots in the people you deal with, as this could be costly to your relationship.

If you can combine positive aspects of multiple people in order to come up with something that is valuable and important. This will definitely give you a powerful edge.

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